Isa pang repost para sa IYO.


minsan, akala mo, sa iyo na siya.

parang sang ayon ang lahat sa inyo – kaibigan, kamag anak, kakilala, at mismong kayong dalawa. minsan, sa sobrang saya mo sa mga nangyayari,may small details kang nakakalimutan. maliliit na bagay na napapabayaan, na unti-unting lumalaki, hangga’t di na maayos.

marami akong kaibigan na nagkaroon na ng parehong sitwasyon.

yung isa, TEN YEARS na silang magka relasyon, nagkahiwalay pa din.

yung isa, may anak na, after 8 years, ganun din.

yung isa, almost 6 years na, engaged, ikakasal na lang, nagkahiwalay pa.

yung isa, nu’ng 8.8.8 pa nga dapat ikakasal.

ako mismo, my longest relationship before getting married lasted for 5years, 11 months and 29 days. we broke up on the eve of our 6th anniversary. tragic no?

siyempre, it was painful and devastating.

i would cry everytime i’ll hear sad love songs kahit hindi connected sa love story ko.

i’d cry everytime i’d pass by the places we’ve been to.

i’d cry everytime i’d see something that would remind me of him.

i’d cry just by the simple thought of him.

what makes you and i different is the way we coped up, and the people around us.

when my friends heard the story, siyempre they were all sympathetic, some were empathetic. they tolerated my drama just for a short span of time.

few days after the break up:

1. I DELETED ALL OUR PICTURES FROM MY SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES

2. I UPDATED MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS

3. I DELETED HIS PHONE NUMBERS AND NAMES FROM ALL POSSIBLE MEANS OF COMMUNICATION

4. I STAYED AWAY FROM HIS FRIENDS, RELATIVES AND OUR COMMON FRIENDS – stayed away from his territory.

5. I RESISTED THE URGE TO SEND HIM A LITTLE HI OR HOW ARE YOU

6. MY FRIENDS COOPERATED WELL – NO TEASING ABOUT MY PAST

7. I DIDN’T OFFER FRIENDSHIP!!!

maraming marami pa, and it did help. i stopped viewing his profile. ayokong magmukhang tanga kakasabing I’VE MOVED ON, pero palihim pa ding umiiyak. hindi ko sinasabing kalimutan mo siya ng isang snap lang, wa kang engot sa pag intindi ng sinasabi ko! it was a tough process. proseso siya kasi may mga steps akong sinunod.

i stayed away from people related to him, to us because they will only remind me of ‘us’. some won’t help me move forward.

i didn’t offer friendship, kasi A FRIEND WOULDN’T MISTREAT A FRIEND. it would be very awkward. ayoko madungisan yung salitang friendship.

i deleted his numbers and name kasi as long as the lines of communications are open, ke sa ex, sa kamag anak, o sa kaibigan, mas lalo ka lang matutukso na kamustahin siya.

ano bang point ko? ang akin lang, RESPETUHIN MO YUNG NEXT NA MAGIGING PARTNER NG EX MO, NO MATTER HOW YOU GUYS ENDED. paano kung sa iyo gawin yan? come to think of it, young lady. you wouldn’t want your future partner and his ex to be communicating just like the old times, na parang walang pakielam sa iyo, na parang wala ka lang. mag isip isip ka nga.

masyado ng mahaba to. till my next post. na-miss ko magsulat. 🙂

disclaimer: ang tamaan, wag magagalit, peri sana may mapulot at magtanda. tsuk.

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