Husband and I had a
minor fight over the weekend. (don’t ask me for details, I won’t discuss it here, hehe).
Since we were on a cold war, he watched (TV) on our bedroom, while I was on the living room. Surprisingly, we both landed on the same channel – HBO. They were airing COUPLES RETREAT.
Boy, it was very, very timely.
The movie was A comedy centered around four couples who settle into a tropical-island resort for a vacation. While one of the couples is there to work on the marriage, the others fail to realize that participation in the resort’s therapy sessions is not optional.
Pareho kaming tinamaan sa kwento ng isang couple.
When the marriage counselor asked them if how they marriage is, they both answered, ‘it’s fine, we are able to get through things nicely.’ The counselor asked them for to expand further on their answer. While explaining, the counselor blocked them off, and told them that he is not impressed.
The husband says his work is fine.
The wife hers is also fine.
The husband says he’s having enough time with friends.
The wife says she’s having enough time with friends, too.
The list goes on and on.
It was all HIS or HERS.
There was no WE, or US.
Their dreams did not include each other. No activity as a couple. No team work. they were both very eccentric.
You see, husband just got a little promotion this January. Additional workloads and projects were given to him. I was one proud wife, of course. I always believed he can do and manage it. It won’t be given to him, if his qualifications and capabilities didn’t show it, after all.
While I, is not working just as a Company Nurse / Health Officer. I do a lot of admin and HR works, too. I am tasked to do the HMO sourcing of our company, and since we are a GOCC, every purchase amounting to more than Php500,000 should undergo the dreaded Bids and Awards Process set by the PhilGEPS. Last year, it took me 4 months to complete the process (was even hospitalized while pregnant, and had to take an early maternity leave) . Aside from that, there’s a lot, lot more things to do – PHILHEALTH Benefit claims, SSS Sickness claims, Petty Cash Voucher and Balance, First Aid Treatments, Health Sessions, blah blah blah blah!
Everytime we arrive home, both of us feel so dead tired. Yes, we talk about how our day went, but just to lament and rant – everything negative. This has been happening for a few days now.
Para nalang kaming mag housemate, physically present at home, but mentally absent. So yun nga, last night, after the marriage counselor told the couple that he was not impressed, parang there’s a force who pulled me into our bedroom, stood at the door step, sobbed and told Peewee – ‘bati na tayo, huwag na tayong mag-away!’.
He hugged me tight. Kissed me on the forehead and said I love you. Haha. I was crying hard, and he was laughing hard, too! Salbahe talaga. He told me that he can’t believe we lasted long fight like this.
We sat down and discussed stuff. In between sobs, I told him my point, and told me he understands. Kung kelan daw kami naging mag-asawa, saka kami nag-away ng ganun. We only had one major fight furing our bf/gf stage, and hours lang ang binilang before we patched things up. Eto, 2 days! Hehe.
I am not sure if we’re not gonna fight about this thing anymore, one thing, we now know how to deal with this, easily, and more peaceful. We ended the night the sweetest and most romantic way possible, it’s not yet too late, diba.